Mother’s Day Without the Cliché

Giving mom what she really wants

By Sarah Kittle

Ask most mothers what they really want for Mother’s Day, and chances are you’ll hear answers like, “quality family time,” “a night out,” or even just “some peace and quiet.” After years—decades, even—of preparing daily meals for my children, my answer to the “favorite meal” question has become wonderfully simple: “Whatever someone else has cooked.” There’s something deeply refreshing about being cared for when you’re usually the one doing the caring.

We mothers spend so much of our time tending to others—whether that’s raising kids, managing a household, or balancing work and family—that it can be difficult to even recognize what it feels like to be nurtured ourselves. So while flowers and chocolates are lovely, and jewelry always appreciated, what many of us truly crave is a mix of experiences, thoughtful gestures, and, most importantly, meaningful time with the people we love.

If Mom seems tired from the daily grind—whether at home or in the workplace—consider giving the gift of help. Schedule a housecleaning session, hire a service, or better yet, gather your siblings and do it yourselves. There’s nothing moms love more than seeing their children working together and sharing laughter. For the past few years, I’ve asked for three hours of my sons’ time to help clean up the yard. I get their company, the yard gets a facelift, and the results last long after the day is over.

Looking for gifts that keep on giving? Subscription services are a great place to start. There’s something magical about receiving a monthly reminder that someone’s thinking of you. Meal kits like Hello Fresh can ease the dinner dilemma, while “of-the-month” clubs—be it books, wine, cheese, coffee, or even seasonal flower arrangements—offer a little surprise and delight, again and again. Tailor the subscription to her interests and you’ll be gifting her something far more personal than a single item off a shelf.

If she’s crafty, consider niche subscriptions like miniature model kits or embroidery clubs. One friend of mine received a miniatures subscription from her daughter, and every month she was reminded of the thought behind the gift. Another wonderful option is a curated gift basket filled with her favorite snacks, a few good reads, cozy socks, eye masks, and a handwritten card. The key is personal attention—showing her that you see her, know what she loves, and took time to make her feel special.

Remember that Saturday Night Live skit about moms at Christmas, where everyone else opened elaborate presents while Mom got a robe? That one hit home for a reason. Moms often put themselves last, and while they won’t always say it out loud, it means the world to be recognized and genuinely appreciated.

If she loves the arts or history, consider gifting her a museum membership—maybe to the Detroit Institute of Arts, the Henry Ford Museum, or a local cultural institution. A zoo membership can offer wonderful outings with the grandkids. Better yet, plan a visit together. Take her out for dinner and a show. Buy tickets to a concert or comedy night—something she wouldn’t usually splurge on for herself. Even if the event is months away, the anticipation itself becomes a part of the gift.

Wellness and relaxation are always welcome. Book a spa day, schedule a pedicure, or send her on a women’s retreat. Surprise her with afternoon tea delivered to the house, or organize a DIY day filled with fun, restorative activities. If she enjoys hands-on projects, build something together—like a LEGO botanicals set for a forever-bouquet, or help her upload family photos into a digital photo frame. These shared moments turn into memories that last far longer than just one Sunday in May.

Handmade gifts can be especially meaningful when they come from grandchildren. A handprint or footprint kit is a sweet, simple way to create something heartfelt that she’ll treasure forever.

Whatever you choose to do, the point is this: think with your heart. Make her feel seen. Surprise her with something thoughtful and specific. Mother’s Day is a chance not just to say “thank you,” but to show it—through time, creativity, and care.

Because what moms really want isn’t always bought in a store. It’s felt in the effort you make, the laughter you share, and the love you show. And honestly? We’re worth it.