Present, Practical, and Principled

Three paths to a positive school year

By Crystal Kassab Jabiro

A new school year brings a fresh set of opportunities and challenges. Naturally, we want the best for our children—but at times, we may overindulge, overlook, or lower our expectations simply because it’s easier. As a mother, I understand. But as a teacher, I often find myself questioning certain student behaviors, which are shaped by a complex mix of genetics, environment, peer influence and personality.

Parents play the most influential role in a child’s development, and the start of a new academic year is the perfect time to reinforce positive strategies that support both parents and children.

Here are three practical pathways to help parents stay invested, avoid materialism and establish clear expectations:

Prioritize being present: It’s 2025, and we’re all busy in one way or another—but it’s crucial for kids to know they have your attention. Otherwise, they may seek it elsewhere, sometimes in the form of poor choices. Create dedicated family time that fits your schedule, whether it’s between work, school or extracurriculars. Even short, intentional moments of focused interaction can strengthen the parent-child bond. Minimize or put away devices during these times to be fully engaged in conversations and activities. Show genuine interest in your child’s day and feelings by asking thoughtful questions and actively listening. Presence is more powerful than presents.

Focus on practical experiences over luxuries: Many of us want to give our children what we didn’t have—but giving in to every desire for material goods can come at a cost, even when well-intentioned. Overindulgence can diminish the value of hard work and create a sense of entitlement. Teaching kids the difference between needs and wants is essential. Encourage patience and gratitude by reserving high-cost items, outings or trips for special occasions like birthdays and holidays. Not every gift or gathering needs to be extravagant—regardless of your income. Be practical, even if you can afford to be posh. As children mature, they will grow to appreciate shared experiences far more than high-end items. Memories last longer than luxury.

Set clear boundaries and expectations: Communicate rules and consequences clearly and directly. When children understand the framework for acceptable behavior—and see that it’s enforced consistently—they’re more likely to develop self-control and responsibility. Giving them a voice in setting some rules can foster ownership and encourage compliance. Children feel more secure and confident when expectations are well defined, especially in new situations. Reinforce high standards regularly but resist the urge to solve every problem for them. Allow space for growth by letting them navigate challenges and develop problem-solving skills. Most importantly, model the behavior you expect. Be principled, respectful and consistent. This not only reinforces expectations but also builds trust between you and your child.

By implementing these strategies, parents can foster strong relationships with their children, nurture resilience and humility, and help raise responsible, respectful and independent individuals.